We are creatures of habit. Every day we get up at the same
time, or snooze the alarm repeatedly, go through our morning routine; and then
we are off for the day. For some that includes drinking their favorite cup of
joe or jumping in a cold shower. Most routines happen gradually and take shape
without one realizing it has become the norm.
Children are the same. Babies have milk and take naps on a
routine, and this usually doesn’t change too much. As they get older and become
more independent, the list of routines grows. As a parent it can be a shock
when a simple matter of wearing tennis shoes instead of sandals throws your
child into an upset outburst. Rocking the boat unknowingly takes you for a
sharp turn.
As the season changes again, Marshall is the next to join in
the habit breaking - “What is this boot?” and tries to take it off. He hasn’t
noticed or comprehended yet that Sunday is dress-up day, so we haven’t
experienced any melt-downs with that yet. Olivia is definitely aware of all her
clothing and when we switch to nice dresses on Sunday versus the usual skirt
and t-shirt. She usually picks a jean dress that is not really a typical Sunday
dress, but it is a dress nonetheless; so I let her have a pass.
Wes’ brother got married this weekend, and I prepared for
special military-style tactics (sarcasm) to encourage Olivia to wear a fancy
dress. I told her we were going to a wedding party, and we had to dress up very
nicely.
“Look at Marshall & Daddy!” I told her.
“See Marshall’s fancy vest and bow tie and Daddy’s fancy
shirt and tie. You need a fancy dress too!” I said. She asked if she had a tie
too like Marshall and Daddy, and I figured a belt/bow in the back of the dress
qualified.
I artfully used tactics of imitation (like Marshall!) and told
her everyone is going to be wearing their fancy clothes to the wedding, and the
bride will have a fancy wedding dress! She said “Adana will have a fancy dress?”
(Her name is Adriana). She was persuaded.
Olivia always wanting to array herself identical to Marshall
was used to the advantage of changing up her habitual routine. Yes, we are all
creatures of habit, but sometimes we can be persuaded to change course on
occasion. Starting today, drop that cup of coffee down the sink. Who needs a bitter
taste to start the day?